Do you daydream a lot?
Do you get easily distracted?
You might be at your office or doing some household chores and not been able to pay attention or getting distracted quickly! Or maybe, you are fidgeting constantly!
Then, are you having an attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or attention deficit disorder (ADD)?
Well, no need to get confused! Actually, ADD and ADHD are synonymous. So way back in 1994, doctors of our country have clarified that all forms of attention-deficit disorder would be called “attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder”, even if the person wasn’t hyperactive. But, it’s important to talk to an experienced counselor to make sure that you get the right diagnosis!
What can cause you having ADHD?
Actually, it’s pretty complicated! Researches are still going on to know the exact cause(s) of ADHD. However, different factors might be responsible for having ADHD like:
Genetic factors: If you have any siblings, who has ADHD, you are more likely to develop ADHD within yourself. And if you are twins, having the same DNA, then you have considerably high chances of having ADHD.
Environmental factors: Extensive lead exposure might increase the risk of your ADHD.
Here are the signs to look for:
Inattention: You are not been able to pay attention to your work and fail to complete your assigned tasks by getting distracted easily!
Impulsivity: You are making spur-of-the-moment decisions without thinking about the chance of harm or long-term effects! You act quickly to get an immediate reward. As a result, you may regularly interrupt your colleagues, friends, and family.
Hyperactivity: You might feel restless all the time and try to do multiple things at once. You are fidgeting continuously, especially in situations where it’s not appropriate.
In addition, you might be having insomnia, forgetfulness, mood swings, or hyperfocus (a tendency to focus on one task for an extended period of time)!
So, based on the symptoms, mental health professionals in our country have classified ADHD into three types! The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) version 5 shows it as:
- ADHD predominantly inattentive presentation (what used to be known as ADD)
- ADHD predominantly hyperactive-impulsive presentation
- ADHD combined presentation
“You, me and ADHD!”
ADHD can pose a threat to your relationship or marriage! But can it lead to your divorce or break-up?
Your ADHD can lead to anger, frustration, and hurt feelings of you and your partner, both! So, your marriage or relationship needs certain tactics to avoid such misunderstandings.
To make you aware, we are listing out some common problems which can arise in your personal life.
- Forgetfulness: Due to a lack of paying attention, you might forget what you discussed with your partner. You might forget about the important dates related to your relationship like your partner’s birthday, your anniversary, or going for a date night which you have planned recently, etc.
- Inattention: You might lose focus while communicating with your partner. This can make your partner feel that you are having an apathy towards him/her!
- Disorganization: You might not feel like doing your household chores and leave your jobs incomplete! And eventually, you become a disorganized person. This can lead to your partner’s resentment and frustration and lead to household chaos. So, your partner might feel that he/she is doing more work compared to you!
- Mood swings: You might be facing difficulties while controlling your emotions. As a result, you feel anxiety and frustration’ as well as joy and happiness, more intensely than others! It can result in squabbling between you people, leaving your partner hurt!
So, how will you handle your personal life when you have ADHD? Here are some strategies which you can follow:
- Set reminders: Yes, you heard it right! Set reminders on your phone for your partner’s birthday, anniversary, etc., or any other important date. And whenever you people are planning for a date night, set a reminder as soon as possible so that you don’t miss out on your romantic day!
- Work on your communication skills: Well, you can say that communication and love are the pillars of any relationship! So, start communicating with your partner more often so that he/she doesn’t feel left out. It can help you to resolve each other’s problems and give a better shape to your relationship!
- Share the workload with your partner: You can plan a meeting with your partner on the first day of the week. Share the tasks with your partner and list them down, so that even if you forget, you can take a glance. To make it more interesting, you can interchange your tasks with your partner in the next week!
- Lead a healthy life: You can go for a healthy diet, good night sleep, or regular exercise to curb your mood swings! Or, you can try doing yoga or Tai Chi to relieve stress and lead a healthy life. And you can follow a 5-minute therapy everyday for controlling your anxiety!
By the way, are you feeling stressed while managing your finances ?
“Adults with ADHD often find the task of organizing their finances too tedious. As receipts and bills pile up, they may become overwhelmed to the point of denial or paralysis,” said Jane Massengill, a licensed clinical social worker and a certified master ADHD coach in Danville, California.
Because, apart from your personal life, ADHD can have a huge impact on your finances too! As a result, you might be struggling to manage your finances!
Impulse buying can lead to overspending!
Due to impulsivity, you might have a tendency to make rash decisions for which you have to pay in the future! Let’s say, you have gone shopping and because of impulsivity, you end up buying some unnecessary stuff. Basically, you are overspending and it can affect your wallet in the current month!
2. Overspending might lead you to opt for the high-interest loan(s).
Overspending will most likely lead you to a shortage of funds at the end of the day! And while walking down the street, the appealing advertisement of fast cash loans might attract you! Or you may fall for opting for other high-interest loans! These loans come with incessantly high APRs (Annual Percentage Rates), which eventually lead you to the debt trap.
How will you manage your finances properly?
Create a proper budget
This is the most important tool to manage your finances efficiently! It’s very simple! Take a pen and a piece of paper and note down your monthly income from all your sources. Then chalk out a budget for yourself keeping the approximate monthly expenses in view. This will help you to restrict yourself from overspending and make a habit of saving!
2. Automate your necessary payments
You have to fight against your disorganization and procrastination! For that, you can automate your processes as much as possible like:
- Setting up direct deposits to your savings account from your paycheck. This will help you to save a substantial amount of dollars at the end of the day!
- Setting your bills to autopay from your checking account! As a result, you don’t need to shell out extra dollars for missed or delayed payments, if any.
3. Follow the cash diet!
Following the cash diet can help you to refrain yourself from impulse spending! In cash diet, you have to use physical currency instead of your plastic money. It’s said that we have a tendency to spend more when we pay through our cards!
So, when you are using cash while making payments, you can restrict yourself from overspending too! Moreover, cash is limited; so, you can’t purchase more.
4. Go for an apt debt relief option
If you are already trapped with multiple debts, you can opt for debt relief options! You will find various ways to consolidate debt into a single one like taking out a consolidation loan or opting for balance transfer method.
A recent study by the Social Service Research Centre (SSR) and the National University of Singapore (NUS) reveals that reducing the number of debt accounts lowers the mental burden of people. As a result, it improves the overall psychological and cognitive performance, which is good for your ADHD!